Everyone
wants to be happy and successful in life. But most people are not! Many people
act like victims and feel that everything is against them and they are struck
somewhere.
Whatever
may be the reason; people who act like victims are often depressed, feel
negative and sorry for their fate. They can even be aggressive to others and
with themselves as well. Unfortunately, this is a terrible vicious circle. They
tend to blame others and feel pity about themselves.
What you
need? You need to develop a positive attitude – a positive outlook towards the
things around you. It is that moment where you start your way towards a happier
life. I would also say, that if you have a positive attitude then it’s almost
impossible to return a vicious circle.
Everyone has goals and aspirations in life. To be able to
achieve the goals, you must have the right tools. Although some tools require
special skills in certain areas, but most powerful ways are often the simplest
ones.
A positive mental attitude is one of these powerful tools,
and can be used to achieve your dreams and greatest desires in life. There are
five aspects to be taken into account to obtain a positive outlook in life.
Here is a short summary of these five characteristics, and some easy to apply
tips for you to be on top in each of these areas and help you change your
attitude easily.
1. Health
2. Perspective
3. Gratitude
4. Social Environment
5. Mood
1. Health - you are what you eat
I cannot stress enough the importance of living a healthy
life. Seriously, if you still feel tired, hungry, weak, there is a good chance
that you are not very positive! Healthy living involves a good diet and
physical exercise: you need both to feel good.
By drinking a lot of coffee or energy drinks (Red Bul ...)
and eating too many sugary foods, your energy and your mood will suffer larger
variations. Try replacing sweets with fresh fruit. Eating healthy products
without dyes, preservatives and other added products will help you maintain a
steady level of energy, avoiding these energy falls. Also, if you're feeling a
little tired and depressed, do exercise! This seems against-intuitive, but going
for a walk or running for 30 short minutes can really get your body moving and
aerate your mind.
As I said, a healthy lifestyle is very important to develop
a positive mindset, but it is also one of the hardest to follow, it requires a
lot of discipline.
2. POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE (see the bright side)
Something it is vital to cultivate a positive mind to see
the good side of life. People generally tend to increase the negative
situations and diminish the positives in life. This happens when we put
ourselves always in the front position or make ourselves centre stage to get
attention when in reality we should put ourselves in the shoes of other people.
What we're trying to do here is to balance the scales. You
will be surprised that how often things that we considered as impossible at one
time were doable at the end. Our positive attitude towards the situations and
things help us eliminate the negatives and give us self- confidence to conquer
it.
The next time you are facing a problem, big or small, take a
step back from the situation. List the positive and negative points. Try to
list three things you could do to turn the negatives into positives.
For example, imagine asking a promotion at work, but your
manager refused to give you a promotion. Of course, the downside is that you
have not got your promotion. But what are the positives? Check with your
manager and ask why this offer was refused. Try to understand his point of
view. May be you lack certain skills or you lacked to match on his expectation
list. Alteast, now you have a clear road where you should work on, in the next
year to get the promotion. This information is very important - you got an
objective answer on the future of your career. Now, you can work on changing
the negatives into positives.
See the bright side, you can gain experience with each event
/ situation and use it enthusiastically to move forward instead of constantly
thinking about it, complain and regret.
3. GRATITUDE (for you and for others)
Being grateful for what you are, for your life and to
others, is also a key to staying positive. This can really help you stay
focused on the positives in your social interactions and in your life.
Be grateful that means you know what you enjoy. The past is
the past, and there is nothing we can do to change it. Remembering the negative
experiences and mistakes of the past is useless – it will do nothing but
depress you. Focus on what you have today. Look at where you are in life.
Instead of focusing on the opportunities missed in the past, look at what have
achieved, all your successes, people who support you, the sources of happiness
in your life right now. This includes almost everything: your job, your
friends, your family, your goals ... everything.
Another important point is to show that you value others. If
there is someone in your life who has a positive influence in your life, either
a mentor or someone who supported you in difficult times, or simply one of your
best friends: tell him that you value him! You could invite that person to
dinner, see a movie, and offer her a small gift. You could just write a card or
a letter and let him know that you appreciate what he is or what he did for you.
All these options form a very strong gesture, and make you and your friend
happy. It is very effective to develop a positive attitude.
4. SOCIAL ENVIRONMENT (Positive creates positive)
One of the most important points is your social environment.
It is common to say "you are what you eat", and it's true: if you eat
healthy, you will be healthy, you eat fat, you probably end up overweight.
Something else is very important, the people with whom you
spend your time plays a very big effect on your mood and attitude. That's
right, negative people tend to hang out with other negative people. They will
clutter negative thoughts and create a negative atmosphere. They will tend to
lower your self-confidence.
If someone gives you that kind of feeling, then you should
consider spending less time with him. Even if you want him to grow or think
positive, he won’t as it always one will to change first only then other people
can help them.
The important thing to remember is: spend time with positive
people, you will become more positive. This will influence your character and
attitude.
5. YOUR MOOD
Moods tend to be uncontrollable, and are vulnerable to the
famous vicious circles. One reason why some people adopt a negative attitude,
it's because they are already in a negative mindset, and this mind-set starts
destroying them. Frequent mood swings tends to make you intolerant and easily
lose temper.
Doing yoga and breathing exercises help you overcome these
frequent mood swings. You start controlling your mind and heart gradually and
that also develops a positive energy within you.
Try looking at the bright side of things. Do good things to
feel good. Your attitude towards life defines your life.
Be Happy! Stay Positive! Keep Smiling!
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